I came across this great article about “What to say to someone who experiences a loss” on blogged today. It is one of those things that they really should give you (and more importantly family and friends) when you have a miscarriage. After you lose a baby, it is amazing some of the really stupid things that people say to try and cheer you up.
Of course sometimes it is almost worse if someone says nothing at all…
My Dad does not always handle these things in the best way and I must admit we were a little worried about how it might go when we saw him after we lost Kye (he was out of town at the time). I still remember meeting him at the airport and he just hugged my wife and said something to the affect of “My condolences and I talked to a friend who had a miscarriage and she said that I should just not say anthing else, so I will.” It was great that he acknowledged our loss, but it was also great that someone had taken him aside and warned him not to try one of those stupid “it will all be okay” lines that everyone seems to try.
